养猪，养狗，养人
私人养猪，我待过农村，知道一点，就是买进小猪（也可能自己母猪产的小猪），然后开始喂养，每天喂食2顿到三顿猪食，然后经常给它洗澡，不能让它生病。终于一年半载，长大了长胖了，把它卖出去，获得养猪的回报。
养狗现在多了。大概也是，买来的、或者朋友送的，又或者是领养来的流浪狗，养狗时间稍长与养猪，大约十五年。养狗不图经济回报，图的是养狗人的心理愉快。

生儿育女，就又是另外一回事了。人的一生，目前就上海而言，普遍期望寿命80多岁，又是自己的遗传基因，喜怒哀惧，当然不同于养猪养狗这么简单了。

一次上课，听一位心理老师，还是一位教授讲，说养儿就是为了防老，突然感觉有点晕。养儿子为了自己的将来，为何感觉有点像养猪，，，，，，后来细想，农民这样想可以理解，因为没有退休制度，城市人绝对不可以这样想。养人和养猪一样，有点笑不出来。呜呜！

经常看见新闻报道，母亲把儿子宠坏了。报道偏多说到母亲宠爱儿子，有点把他当宠物养，所谓“让他幸福”。饭来张口，衣来伸手的喂养，是不是感觉养狗一样，最后孩子就是像狗一样的，除了会吃饭还是吃饭。我的一个哥哥，他的老婆是烟草公司上班，有工资和奖金，她的80后独生子，像狗一样宠爱，从小学生起，零用钱每天5元，那是很多的。因为我记得我女儿小时候，中学时候，一个月零用钱才22元。今天我哥哥的这个儿子，不会工作，找不到工作，成为啃老一族。30多岁的人，生活费还需要父母退休金负担。

养儿育女，像猪一样，为了自己的经济利益，很可恶。但是像养狗一样，当宠物养，只顾自己内心愉悦，害了孩子的将来，也是很可恶。不是吗？
看到一首诗，写的很好，是说母亲和孩子的：

“你们的孩子都不是你们的孩子。
他们是因生命对自身的渴望而生出的子女。
他们通过你们来到这世上，但并非是从你们的生命中到来，
他们和你们生活在一起，但并不属于你们。
你们可以给予孩子爱，但却不能把你们的思想赋予他们，
因为他们也有自己的思想。
你们可以保护他们的身体，却不能保护他们的灵魂，
因为他们的灵魂栖息于明日之屋，
即使在梦中，你们也无缘造访。”

说的太好了，今天的物质条件和时间条件都很好，人们又钱又有闲，一不小心就忘记了父母和子女的关系。以为是为了自己而生儿育女，错了。养儿育女不主要是为了自己，如果一个儿女生命，10分是满分的话，父母最多获得49%，51%以上是TA自己的，也是社会的，也是人类的。以为育人是养猪，养狗，越界了，是自私和贪婪，也是罪过。
我也是快到了当外公的年龄了，想到这些，也给自己提个醒，千万不可以当养猪和养狗的外公，哈哈哈。

Raise pigs, raise dogs, raise people

Farmers feed pigs privately. I've been in the countryside, and I know this. To buy pigs (or maybe pigs from my own sows)andthen start feeding them. Feed the pig 2 to 3 times a day,often give it a bath, can not make it sick, finallya year and a half, grow up fat, sell it, get the return of raising pigs.

There are more dogs now. Probably, bought it or given it by a friend, or adopted stray dog. Raising a dog is more longer than a pig for about 15 years. Keeping a dog is not about financial returns,but about the psychological well-being of dog owners.

Having children is another matter. At present, the life expectancy in Shanghai is more than 80 years, which is the result of our genetic inheritance. Of course, it is different from raising pigs and dogs.

At a class, listen to a psychology professor lecture, he said that raising children is for their own aging and pension, suddenly feel a little dizzy. Why raising a son for your future feels a bit like raising a pig ,,,,,,, On reflection later, it is understandable for farmers to think like this, because there is no retirement system, urban people can never think like this. Raise a person and raise a pig are the same, have a little laugh not to come out.

I often see news reports that mother has spoiled her son. Reports tend to say that mothers pet their sons, keeping them as pets and "making them happy". The result of doting on a man like a dog is that he grows up like a dog and can do nothing but eat. One of my brothers, his wife works in a tobacco company with high salary and bonus, her only child born in the 1980s, his wife raised her son like the dog. From the primary school, pocket money was5 yuan each